Parenting is a difficult and often thankless task even in the best of times. For those going through a difficult time in their lives, the responsibilities of parenthood can become infinitely more difficult. Divorce is one such situation. Not only will you have more restrictive schedules and much more to remember when you have shared …
Preventing manipulation from interfering in a co-parenting effort Read More »
Maybe you’re just trying to be nice and understanding, doing divorce the modern way in Oregon. Your ex-spouse asks you something like, “Is it OK if I miss paying alimony this month?” They may say they’re having some money problems, that the benefits from their new job haven’t kicked in yet or they recently moved …
Modify spousal support in court, not on the side Read More »
With a same-sex divorce, child custody can start to be complex. A lot depends on your exact relationship to your child — and the child’s relationships with other people. Is your child biologically related to you, your spouse or neither of you? If the child is biologically related to your spouse, is there another biological …
Same-sex custody battles are tough, but you can get help Read More »
Securing a fair outcome in an Oregon divorce means making yourself aware of exactly what assets and debts you and your spouse accrued during your marriage. If you don’t have access to financial records or if you underestimate what your marital estate is worth, you may not know to ask for what you should truly …
There’s a 1 in 20 chance that your spouse has a hidden bank account Read More »
You never really agreed with your spouse regarding your child’s education even while you were married. They wanted to homeschool the kids. You wanted to send them to private school. Your spouse said they would never do private school, but maybe they would agree to a public school closer to home. You never had to …
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Your spouse filed for divorce. You weren’t really that surprised, and you hoped it could be a low-conflict divorce. Then you checked your bank accounts. The day before filing, your spouse withdrew $100,000 from one of the accounts. When you ask them about it, they tell you that they just remembered an old debt to …
Did your spouse just ‘remember’ some debts after filing for divorce? Read More »
For some people, letting others know that they’re going through a divorce is a challenging event. They may only want those close to them to know about the split, at first. Eventually, however, the news is going to make its way around before long. If there are people you’d rather hear the news from you, …
The love you feel for your grandchildren and the special support that you provide them can be very valuable to them, especially during times of emotional and social change. If your grandchild has recently gone through the divorce of their parents or the termination of their parents’ rights due to abuse, neglect or addiction, your …
Visitation can protect your strong bond with your grandchild Read More »
Co-parenting with your ex-spouse doesn’t seem to be working. They simply can’t seem to put aside their bitterness and anger to focus on anything but themselves. Every conversation becomes a battle, and the hostility is overwhelming. Maybe it’s time to give up on co-parenting altogether. Experts say that “parallel parenting” can help you regain some …
Parallel parenting with an angry, hostile ex-spouse Read More »
Many parents assume that divorce means splitting custody, and that means moving the children from one house to the other. Maybe they plan to sell the home where they lived as a family and buy two new homes of their own. This part of a divorce can actually be hardest on the children on a …