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Strategies for fathers involved in child custody battles

Fathers in Oregon might assume that family courts will favor mothers in child custody decisions. However, the legal system can serve the needs of moms and dads in this situation. The process requires fathers to come to terms with their emotions so that they can focus on defending their parental rights.

Child custody disputes can potentially become very bitter. When parents cannot agree on a custody arrangement, then a court will eventually make the decision for them. Men can begin to overcome their animosity toward former partners by understanding that an angry and prolonged dispute might damage their relationship with the children. By trying to move beyond hurt feelings and anger, men can make mental room for nurturing their children and strategically pursuing custody or visitation.

What happens to the home after a divorce in Oregon

After a divorce, one of the most difficult issues to resolve is the disposition of the family home. The simplest and most equitable resolution is usually for the home to be sold with both parties sharing equally in the proceeds. Sometimes couples mutually agree to sell the home, but often the court orders the couple to do so. Other couples delay the sale of the home, either as part of a mutually-agreed upon plan or because the animosity between the couple is too high immediately after the divorce.

However, many divorcing couples do not wish to sell the home to make the divorce transition easier on their children. Affordability is a key concern in such an arrangement since one spouse may not be able to maintain the residence with his or her salary post-divorce alone. If the couple decides not to sell the home, one option is for one spouse to sign over his or her half of the home to the other spouse. Another option is for the spouse who remains in the home to buy out the other spouses share of the property.

The challenges of co-parenting after a divorce

When a divorce involves two individuals who do not have children, it is possible for the ex-spouses to completely separate from one another and never have interactions again. However, when children are involved, the situation can be challenging. Parents in Oregon who are going through a divorce may have the option of sole custody parenting, parallel parenting or co-parenting.

In an ideal situation, parents would put the best interests of their children in front of any animosity or frustration they might have with each other. This means that even though it is challenging, divorced parents would communicate with each other, maintain a civil relationship and avoid arguing in front of their children. They would show by word and deed that they are committed to the happiness of their children even if it means that there will be times when they feel uncomfortable or their convenience is infringed upon.

Divorce doesn't necessarily have to create co-parent problems

When you determined that divorce was the most viable option to resolve your marital problems, you likely understood that your decision was going to affect your children's lives. Such situations do not necessarily have to mean that your children will be unable to cope or will not successfully adapt to a new lifestyle. In fact, studies show that kids In Oregon and beyond are quite resilient and adaptable in most cases, especially when they have the loving support of both their parents as they move on in life.

It's true that most children take cues from their parents' behavior, so the way you and your ex handle your co-parenting situation may greatly influence your children's ability to come to terms with your divorce. There are several key issues that can help you make the best of your new co-parenting relationship.

Common questions about spousal support

Among the significant financial issues that can come up in Oregon divorces is spousal support, also called alimony. These are support payments one spouse gives to the other in the wake of a split. Today, we’ll discuss some of the basics of spousal support here in Oregon.

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